Selah Sue - “Live in the moment”Belgian singer-songwriter Selah Sue on battling depression, the school of hard knocks and why you can’t learn about life through books
THE RED BULLETIN: You had a hit song on your latest album called “Fear Nothing”. What are you afraid of?
SELAH SUE: Quite a lot of things. Fear was the main reason for my depression. I suffered a lot of psychological issues and I had to take medication. It’s almost like a disease and so many of my friends also have to take Xanax to be calm. It is weird though, because fear is a natural thing. Every animal knows it. You just need to be able to control it, and that can be a very difficult thing to do.
How did you battle your depression?
I went through a lot of therapy and eventually took medication, which helped me a lot. It is still a part of me though, I think it is genetic. My grandparents on both sides were psychiatric patients. But I am really thankful for that experience, because I am now much wiser and know exactly who I am, and I can put things in perspective. I can enjoy the good moments much more.
What makes you happy?
Nature calms me down. I love it when the sun shines for example. It is so honest. Children in a way, as well. My boyfriend has two children. They are so small and honest. And I love sports. It makes me physically and mentally balanced. I enjoy jogging in nature.
Which flavour captures your personality best?
Maybe something bittersweet. I am a very up and down kind of person. I can be very positive and happy with everything one moment, and then the next day the world will be a different place and all I can think about is how unhappy and unlucky I am. But I think that it is just my personality. I also like to analyse why I am like this.
You studied psychology. Did you do it to help yourself analyse things?
No, that’s a cliché. I think you learn much more by just getting older and having the experience of life than by books.
So what valuable lessons have you learnt from the school of life?
I have learnt self-control. Things have been pretty extreme in my personal life, and I think things would have ended pretty badly if I had let my emotions dictate my decisions. I have had to learn that the hard way.
How would you say you live your life?
I definitely try to live in the moment. In this job it is much more easy to live like that.