Wave goodbye to shyness:
Unleash your true self with these 6 steps
Not everyone is a born showman, and that’s a good thing. Though these people tend to ooze self-confidence, it’s often advantageous to consider one’s words rather than being spontaneous. Too much self-confidence, and people may consider you a bit tactless. That said, there are both personal and professional rewards to be had if you focus less on worrying what others think about you.
Here are six top tips to combat shyness.
1. Understand the reasons for your shyness
Observe the situations where you find yourself feeling uncomfortable. Try to figure out what makes you respond in that way, and consider taking alternative steps to allow you to feel more at ease. This way, you’ll be able to communicate your thoughts more effectively. If you find it hard to make yourself heard in large groups, attempt to speak to people in a private setting. Always challenge yourself to overcome your shyness by leaving your comfort zone when the opportunity arises. Look out for opportunities to host presentations or lectures at work.
2. Be authentic
When someone feels a sense of unease in a social situation or under pressure to perform at work, they often attempt to mask their fears by adopting an alternative persona. Instead of doing this, show who you are to those around you. This will strengthen your self-image and ensure you are perceived more warmly by others.
3. Try not to overthink things
There are many factors that contribute to the stresses and fears of modern life. Pressure to succeed in the office and attempts to balance work with play can be angst-inducing, to say the least. A tendency to overthink things will only add to this sense of unease. Rather than worry about potential outcomes, be bold and have the courage to take necessary risks. You will then find out that situations pan out far better in reality than in your head.
4. Empathise with others
Rather than pursue a dog-eat-dog approach, try to help to understand others when they are down, and you will find the favour is returned to you when overcome with negative emotions of your own. Secondly, if you attempt to read into how other people are feeling, you won’t have time to concentrate on yourself which might make you feel more self-conscious.
5. Don’t take yourself so seriously
Rather than worrying too much about how you are perceived, take a step back and try not to take yourself too seriously. A little self-deprecation can go a long way, as people will see that an ability to laugh at your own faults demonstrates self-awareness and a good sense of humour. After all, we all make mistakes from time to time, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of.
6. Focus on your strengths
We can’t all be the life and soul of the party, but if you consider yourself a first-class listener rather than an entertainer, you should utilise your skills. Reaching out to others with a sympathetic ear will be appreciated by friends and colleagues alike, and this is far more preferable to attracting attention by constantly trying to hide your weaknesses.